THIS is NO WAY to LIVE … with a narcissist

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Do you walk on eggshells?  Keep all discussions, and even questions to a minimum because they always end up in a fight? Have you ever thought you were going crazy after talking with your spouse or partner?  I have felt all of these. Actually everything in this Blog attached titled “The 8 Most Common Narc-Sadistic Conversation Control Tactics” could have been written by me, with first hand experience. But author Bree Bonchay did a great job explaining what many verbally and physically abused women contend with every day.

I hope this article sheds some much needed light on your situation, because I believe you didn’t find these words here, right now, by accident. And then I hope beyond all, that if you are ready, you seek help, because THIS is NO WAY to LIVE, with a narcissist.  YOU are NOT going crazy.  YOU are not alone.  YOU were not designed by GOD to live like this.  There is more for YOU in your future than being controlled and manipulated by another “human being” . . . especially when that person is supposed to be protecting you.  Stop living a lie.  YOU are worth it.

READ BLOG POST HERE:  http://relationshipedia.me/2015/06/16/the-8-most-common-narc-sadistic-conversation-control-tactics/

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My NEWEST Anthem Song: “Listen to me. Am I loud enough?”

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     Stumbled upon this song today. It showed up in my iTunes “hot list” of recommendations for me. With only the bare minimum knowledge of Latin, I did however recognize the word “voce” in the one song title to be the English word “voice”. Well that’s just enough of a nudge these days to peak my curiosity. So out of the four songs recommended for me, this song “Viva Voce” by The Rocketboys got my choice for a click through. One more click, entered my password, and ninety-nine cents later, I own it.

     WOW is my rating out of ten for this song.  It also gets my unsolicited vote to be THE anthem of 2015 for the Domestic Violence community.  It deeply touches on some lyrics really close to my heart also – speaking thanks to “my team”, as I have nicknamed them; those who continue lifting me up these last two plus years as I crawl out of my own silence, finding my voice …

“To all the people I know that listen
LISTEN TO ME, hallelujah!
To all the PEOPLE I know that PRAYED for me
For my safety, hallelujah!

CAN you HEAR me NOW?
I’m SINGING OUT as LOUD as I know how
But AM I LOUD enough?
I got MY VOICE and you got YOURS
so let’s make a little NOISE
ALL TOGETHER NOW!”

The Rocketboys – “Viva Voce” (Lyrics Video)

When violence is involved, it changes everything

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If you approach counseling a couple where there is physical or verbal abuse as if you are doing marriage counseling, then you have already derailed and are hurting the victim even further.  You cannot address this like you would a difference-of-opinions type argument expecting to work things out in a reasonable way.  When violence is involved, violence changes everything.   This is a domestic violence situation and its not just a disagreement.  Don’t make it worse. Get out of the way and get experienced abuse counselors involved immediately.

CRIED by Candice Glover – No longer holding it in

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To all my of you who have unknowingly cried along with me…. at night, in separate cities, states and countries, all sharing this same bond… “I’m crying out loud, not keeping it in…”

CRIED by Candice Glover [VIDEO]

There’s nothing left
‘Cause you took it all
I hope to fly / But you make me fall
And I’m tired, oh I
I kept a smile for all those years
But I’m so sick of fighting my tears
I’m so tired, oh I
And I’m, at my wit’s end
No more holding it in

So I cried, and I cried, And I cried, and I cried

So I cried, for all of the pain that you brought
And I cried, for all of the heart ache you caused
I tried to be the girl that never complains
But holding it in is driving me insane
So I cried, oh I cried

I’m on a limb / And I’m ’bout to jump
I gave it all / But you gave me none
And I’m tired, oh
Down inside, feel it coming out
I wanna but I can’t stop now
And I’m tired, oh I
And I’m at my wit’s end, Ain’t no more holding it in
So I cried, and I cried, And I cried, and I cried

This is for every time I let it go
All of the nights that I spent alone
It’s been too hard to hold back the pain
So like the cloud let it fall like the rain
(no more hiding, I’m done, no biting my tongue)
Yes I’m gon’ make a sound
‘Cause I’m crying out loud

So I cried, for all of the pain that you brought
And I cried, for all of the heart ache you caused (caused)
I tried to be the girl that never complains
But holding it in is driving me insane
So I cried, and I cried, And I cried, and I cried
Cried, and I cried, And I cried, and I cried
And I cried, and I cried, And I cried, and I cried